Let’s talk about being Queer.
Being Queer means code switching between so many different groups. Being Queer means choosing which closet to come out of, and when. Being Queer overlaps gender, sex, and sexuality while also recognizing each as their own intense roller coaster. Being Queer means balancing authenticity on the razor sharp edge of social expectation. Being Queer means living in that liminal place between being respected and being understood.
And it can be exhausting.
Whether you’re treated as an in-house sexologist by all your friends asking inappropriate questions, or whether you’re bullied for being different, or reduced to being invisible in public spaces: Being Queer can be exhausting. Yet being Queer can also grant us an unparalleled liberty, free from the chains of normalcy. Being Queer allows us to reinvent ourselves, explore the edge of our identity, and trust our instinct to play and love.
I am a Queer Counselor. As a licensed mental health counselor I specialize in self-actualization. I love helping people embrace who they really are. For many people, this means letting go of maladaptive coping mechanisms, grieving a deep sense of personal loss, and finding a path through anxiety and trauma. As an eclectic practitioner I believe there’s no one size fits all therapeutic model, yet as a gender affirmative therapist I often use a balance of narrative therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy in my relational approach.
I have a long history in the LGBTQ+ community, and in 2020 I published ACT For Gender Identity: The Comprehensive Guide, a therapeutic manual teaching mental health practitioners how to apply mindfulness based practices to transgender and nonbinary issues. If you’re curious about why I favor the word Queer check out my Queer Theorist page. If you’d like to read more about how to build a gender affirmative practice, check out my Queer Counselor blog on Psychology Today.
As a fun side note, I am currently earning my certification in Sandplay Therapy.
COVID-19: In response to COVID-19 I am currently not seeing clients at this time, and will be focusing on promoting my new book ACT For Gender Identity during the upcoming months. Please follow me at
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